When Will You Be Happy?

“It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.” -Dale Carnegie Okay my friends listen up. I have been talking to a lot of people lately who are not happy and 99% of the time they blame it on someone else or something else. Well here’s a news flash: no one can make you unhappy but you! Yes, things are going to happen in life you don’t like. Things will happen that will rock your world and turn it upside down. But… Remember, it’s not what happens to us in life that matters, what matters is how we CHOOSE to view it. Your interpretation of what happens is how you are going to experience it. Sure, in the beginning of any mind blowing event you will be knocked off your feet. You can even have a pity party and I’ll come to it! But no one wants to attend the same party over and over again and neither should you. For some people this next statement may be hard to fathom but, drum roll please….Happiness is a choice! You can allow life’s circumstances control how you feel or you can control how you feel. You have the power inside your mind to choose how you want to react to life. You have this mind that can make heaven out of hell or hell out of heaven. It’s all about what you CHOOSE to tell yourself over and over and over again about what has happened to you or what is happening to you. Many people are waiting to be happy. I just taught a class on goal setting and creating your intention. As you know a goal is something you aspire to at some point in the future. People live there life believing they will be happy WHEN they reach that place in the future. I will be happy when I meet someone. I will be happy when I get out of debt. I will be happy when I move out of this place. I will be happy when I get married, or divorced for that matter. Why are you waiting to be happy? Another news flash: You will be happy when you decide you will be! One of the most important aspects in my class is to impart the fact that goals are great but it’s all about enjoying the journey along the way. Life is the journey. You can’t wait until you get somewhere to be happy, you’re already here. Now is the time to be happy. Right now. If you live your life waiting for something to happen until you are happy, you will waste most of your life wanting and waiting and never fully living. So how can you be happy when you don’t feel happy? You begin by looking at the blessings in your life. Instead of focusing on what you don’t want and what makes you feel bad, focus your thoughts on how fortunate you are in so many other ways that may have let slipped your mind. Look, we all have issues and things going on, that’s life. But when you truly grasp the concept that all you have is right now; you can either enjoy it or miss out on it. When you dwell on the past, feeling guilty or regretful for things, where are you? Not here, not living right now. You are living in the past and believe me that is nowhere to live. Or, if you are worried about the future and your fears and doubts cause you more stress and anxiety, how does that affect you right now? You can’t live in the future so why continue to project you mind out there; onto things that may or may not even happen? Just for today, take a break from the past, shelve your worries about the future and live for right now. Be at peace and enjoy today, enjoy your friends and your family. Enjoy nature, a good movie, or a walk. Each time you catch yourself going down the road that leads to negativity, stop yourself and stay on the path towards gratitude. Life is a gift we are given each and every day. Don’t wait to be happy. Celebrate life!